Day 68 (What Happens When You Don’t Overthink?)

“It is easy in the world to live after the world’s opinion; it is easy in solitude to live after our own; but the great man is he who in the midst of the crowd keeps with perfect sweetness the independence of solitude.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson, Self-Reliance

The world is powered by passionate people, powerful ideas, and fearless action.

Prompt #3: What’s one strong belief you possess that isn’t shared by your closest friends or family? What inspires this belief, and what have you done to actively live it?

My belief is that after we die, that’s all. The screen goes black forever.

I’m pretty sure not many people will agree with my idea. Some people are religious; others believe in spirituality.

However, let’s say that there is an afterlife, in whatever shape or form it comes in. Then that’s great. I’d be happy to be wrong.

But the only known life is being alive in this one.

Instead of existing, you have to suck out all of the nectar juice out of this life by getting the most out of this life as you can.

What if the screen just ends up being black forever?

I respect religion. Different things work for different people.

I just really believe that you have to live with the possibility that there isn’t an afterlife.

I could be wrong. I could be right.

But what I do know is that we’re all living now. That’s the inspiration for the belief. We all have the power to choose to live right now.

So get out there and make living happen.

My example of living today?

I took an exam and saw someone come out of my class at the same time I finished it.

I talked to her for a few minutes about the exam because I really wanted to know if I was the only one who thought it was easy or not.
She agreed that it was easy.

Then I asked what she was doing after. She said she was busy with another class. Therefore, I didn’t want to keep her busy.

I understood that. However, I truly wanted to hang out with her again.

So my instincts just told me to ask for her facebook.

She gladly gave it and we both smiled. We both said, “It was nice meeting you.” and went on our way.

She hasn’t added me yet so I’ll keep you updated.
Update: Been around 10 days and she hasn’t added me so that’s probably a rejection.

The lesson here is: the details seem a bit vague because I didn’t over-think. I didn’t over-analyze the situation.

I didn’t bother to look around at who was watching.
I didn’t bother to think about how I should approach.
I didn’t bother to think about what to say. “Hi” is good enough.

I automatically let myself speak to someone without any hindering thoughts.

Fear lost today.

I made sure that I got a sip of that nectar juice called living.

If the screen goes black after this life, then I want to be sure I can have as much of it as possible.

Living happens when you don’t over-think.

Jay Shenk
Jay Shenk

Hi Matt, I share your belief that consciousness ends with death-- that this life is all there is. And I think this belief is empowering rather than depressing-- it makes our experiences more valuable and encourages us to take more risks with our life. I like your approach to rejection therapy. I need to do more of this myself.