Day 43 (“Target”ing is Not the Answer)

“Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it.” – Eckhart Tolle

Is there a moment where you decided to take a chance and it ended up being totally embarrassing?

Today I had to leave early to go back home. I had to get my teeth checked a month after my wisdom teeth were pulled. After that appointment, I realized something very difficult. I had to get rejected away from campus.

At around 6pm, I went to Target (it’s a large convenience store).

I decided to look around and let an opportunity to come by. After walking around for 15 minutes, I saw a girl I wanted to talk to. I went up to her and asked her, “Hi. How’s it going?” She said good. I told her, “I know this is a little awkward to ask you at a Target but do you have a facebook?” At this point, I could tell she thought I was a creep at this point. She said that she did not have one. Whether or not she lied is up to her. I said that I would not ask her for her #. I told her it was nice meeting her and went on my way. That was the most uncomfortable, awkward rejection I have gotten so far.

I learned that you have to build rapport when you talk to people to make them feel comfortable. Instead of seeing them as a target, you have to make them feel comfortable first. I have been too used to getting contact with people in a quick manner because on campus people expect to be hit on or talked to. I will have to learn how to develop more small talk skills. That is a very different story away from that environment.

I still feel extremely embarrassed about the whole thing.

I feel more respect for those who attempt to do this in a regular everyday environment.