I went back home this weekend because I had to go to the dentist. What better to risk rejection and benefit from something so simple? After my cleaning, I asked the dentist if I could have two toothbrushes instead of just one because I split my time between my college apartment and my home. However, she just said that is no problem and heaved another toothbrush into my bag. Therefore, that was a surprisingly quick failed rejection.
Since I had to hang out with my cousins I suggested our favorite mexican place to eat at. Instead, my cousin drove straight to a burger place. That was a quick solution. I got a perfect indirect rejection.
I realize I’ll have to figure out more ways to get rejected when I am away from school campus, as it’s much more difficult to feel nervous when getting rejected by relatives. I have to find a place where it’ll give me more nerves. Also, I have to brainstorm more ways of getting rejected.
I was about to bail out on this because I woke up incredibly tired and I just wanted to go to my classes and leave campus. However, I got the courage and talked to someone who just came out of my class. What a wonderful surprise! The chat was quite funny and I ended up meeting someone who went to my same high school 100 miles away! So that was a subtle failed rejection that ended up being really awesome instead.
However, I’ll have to get a real rejection before the day ends. I’ll be back.
I got to class late which was sort of on purpose. I went to the closest empty chair I could find. And right as I asked the person if I could sit in the chair with a backpack, they take the backpack away! Failed rejection.
So class ends. I decide to go to the coffee shop. I pull out a dollar and state that I only have a dollar. The cashier exclaims that she cannot let me have a coffee for less than the amount marked ($1.60). However, she tells me to talk to the supervisor. Another “counter” rejection as I like to call it.
The day isn’t finished so hopefully I can get my first in person rejection. Stay tuned.
It’s the first day. This will probably be the longest reply since I have to describe my setting. Note: It is a bit vague for now. I haven’t decided if I want to name buildings/people yet.
I woke up at noon feeling absolutely drained from the terrible sleeping pattern I have. I’ll have to fix that another time. I got to school around 1pm. Since I was with my classmate, I was just looking for places to find people around campus later on. We walk around to look for the building of our class. After the maze like features of the building, we sat at our desks. I noticed I could have done quite a bit of things here but I will do them on future days.
So class ends and my classmate goes his separate way and I enter into another building where my other class is held. Such a lovely place to find people as there are 20 chairs attached to one wall (where around 13 people were sitting), two staircases on the other side, and 4 hallways with the classrooms. The staircase leading downstairs leads to 6 studying tables and 4 vending machines. That’s another good area. However, at this point, the social anxiety hits extremely hard. I end up just sitting in the corner of the hallway, a little disappointed but not down. I enter class and there ends up being a lovely young lady sitting in front of me with some interesting tattoos. Again, another good chance. However, again something makes me hesitate. So class starts and ends. I walk out thinking what small step I can do first. So I walk to the post office within the campus. I go up to the counter and ask the postal person, “Hi. Can I have a free stamp? I don’t have any cash on me at the moment. I’d be willing to pay it back tomorrow.” He goes, “Do you have a debit card?” I respond with, “Nope.” (I don’t have one at the moment. Blame my couch for eating my wallet the past week). So he simply makes the gesture where both hands go up and nods his head saying no. I just got my first rejection.
I’m glad I did something simple today to just prove that there’s really nothing to be afraid of and it doesn’t hurt to ask.
“You miss 100 percent of the shots you never take.”
?Such a great quote to relate to this blog. If we don’t take any chances, then the answer is going to be “no” 100% of the time. Therefore, this exercise is something I want to do for myself to derail the dullness of an ordinary day and simply take risks.
*edit more later*