Awkward Moments Experiment

“Move out of your comfort zone. You can only grow if you are willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new.”
Brian Tracy

I’ve decided to create this to help me take more risks because my final year of college is looming.

I’ll create situations everyday for 30 days where two things happen:
1. I’m feeling extremely awkward.
2. It benefits the other person or group.

I’m tired of avoiding “perceived danger.” I have to let the training wheels go. I’m down to one year, so the pressure is on.

It’s a distant cousin of Rejection Therapy.
The major difference is that I don’t have to ask for anything.

Some examples:
1. Giving hi-fives to random people.
2. Going to a party, even if I don’t talk much. (I tend to avoid them, so that’s awkward.)
3. Wearing my shirt backwards the whole day.

The starting date is:
Sept 19.

Who’s with me?

In the comments below:
-Give me some ideas (reminder: It’s a University Campus)
-Tell me if you want to participate in this too or wish me luck.
-Anything else that’s in your awesome mind.

25 Bloggers I Thanked (The Thank You Experiment)

Originally called “The Thank You Project 2011” by Jacob. I appreciate his support for encouraging me to do my own thank you experiment.

The original rules:
-Thank someone everyday.
-Don’t take longer than 10 minutes each day to write the message to them.
-Keep it under 5 sentences and don’t ask for anything or any favor in return.

I’ll write about the 30 people (25 of them bloggers) and why I thanked them in order to prove that they make a collective difference to me and everyone else they touch.

1. Jacob (@Jacobsokol) for the whole project idea. It was funny to send him the first one for irony.

2. Niall (@Ndoherty13) because he helped me with the Random Acts of Courage and was one of the first people to talk to me on Twitter when I was getting started. Much of his work helped me open up and be more transparent on my own blog. Also, pissing off zombies is a fun thing to do.

3. Jana (@Jinuit) because we had that amazing 10-minute conversation on letting go.

4. Rhina (@Rhinaju) because she’s been one of my biggest supporters. We’ve e-mailed one another for a couple of months now back and forth trading ideas. It’s proof that e-mail isn’t so bad after all, if you put it to good use. Check out her awesome blog, Giltclover. It has genius written all over it.

5. Patricia (@Monthadventure) because she helped me get the courage to publish that Painful Secret post. I wrote a rough draft for her and she helped me get a grasp of what I needed to talk about in the final. Check out her site, Monthly Adventure, because she has a monthly experiment every month to live extraordinarily.

6. Benjamin (@Benjaminspall) because he helped me get more ideas. One of his posts, (“Our Only Real Currency”) really hit me because of how important the time vs. money issue really is.

7. Tessa (@TeeZeng) because we had a skype chat where I ended up getting closer to my vision. The talk helped me see the core reason why I wanted to break down as many social barriers as possible. If there’s a core passion behind what you’re doing, then you’re definitely more encouraged to do it. She could also help you with your vision.

8. Sebastian (@SebastMarsh) because he got me started with my own self-hosted blog. He told me all of the great benefits that a self-hosted blog would have. He also writes in a way that creates a winning attitude, which is why I back-link to quite a bit of his work.
-I also had to thank him again because he made one of my posts go viral.

9. Michelle (@Pushing_Beauty) because she took the offer for me to interview her in an e-mail. Her portfolio is quite awesome so you should check her out. The full interview will be posted in the near future. Check out her work here.

10. Mark (@Markosul) because of the Nausea post he wrote. It gave me a realistic idea of writing for the sake of writing and doing what I do because I feel like it. Whether success comes or not doesn’t really matter.

11. Mars Dorian (@Marsdorian) for his branding site. It is legendary. His tips on branding are extremely useful.

12. Jason Comely (@JasonComely) because he’s the creator of Rejection Therapy. I had to thank him because he enabled me to see the world with more opportunity. Without that game, I’m not here writing today.

13. Benny (@BennyHsu) because he’s one of the best new bloggers out there. He shares his own personal stories at Get Busy Living in a way that makes you capture what he felt. It really resonates. Then he delivers on self-improvement tips to help you with your mindset as well.

14. Fabian (@FabianKruse) because he helped me with his “Yes-policy” (saying Yes to anything within his power) by suggesting experiments to me. Look here if you want to live an interesting life!

15. Anthony (@ManVsClock) for good twitter chats. Sometimes it’s something as simple as that. Also, his website is a ticking countdown towards his adventures.

16. Stella (@StellaSzeto) because her post on letting go inspired me to write about the idea of shallowness. You can’t settle for the good enough person or good enough anything, so you need to let go of the “good enough”. You have to demand the best fit for you, which is different from perfection.

17. Jk (@Jkthehuster) because he wrote a post around the same time as Stella that talked about how looks matter. It was more about giving your best foot forward and having a great appearance to present to others but I could relate that back to that shallow post.

18. Cordelia [Kelly] (@Cordeliacallsit) because she’s supported me from day one. I also wanted to thank her for the genius idea of quits that she created.

19. Vlad (@Vladdolezal) because of his polyamory post. It opened me up to the idea and learn his reasons for living that lifestyle. (I’m open to anything at the moment. I don’t want to set things into stone obviously.)

20. Stephen (@Deepexistence) for his post about getting rejected by this girl that his parents met at Olive Garden. It’s an interesting post that I could resonate with and I wonder why she rejected him. It doesn’t add up really. However, that’s rejection. If you’re willing to not see it as personal, it’ll bring you a long way.

21. Takuin (@Takuin) for writing an amazing e-book. He also did his own 28-day fasting with loose reflections.

22. Ollie (@Olliesaunders) because he made logical points to someone who doubted my blog’s intent when I went viral. He made a sound rebuttal to his remarks.

23. Greg (@100cups) for the awesome idea of getting coffee/tea with 100 strangers. I will definitely be doing this as well, although the set number isn’t in place.

24. Jason (@JasonShen) for helping me out a ton with his insights on Rejection Therapy. I link to his stuff a lot because it resonates greatly.

25. Stacey (@mylifestylemax) because of her recent post about how being alone doesn’t directly mean being lonely.

26. My mother because she’s helped me and supported me all my life. Without her, I’m not here typing this right now.

27. My cousin because we talk a lot about anything, especially hockey. (Yes, there are hockey fans here!)

28-29. A couple of my real life friends that have always been there for me. However, they’re away from the area currently because they went to universities outside of the area. (California is vast.)

30. You. I want to thank you, the reader, for giving me the time of day by reading my posts. To celebrate you, share anything you’re thankful for or thankful to in the comments below!

On a random note: This was my 100th post!

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[Disclosure: Nothing given to me. I linked to everyone’s page because I like them and their work.]
[Note: Let me know if there are any errors, dead-links, etc.]
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Another Way to Find Your Life Purpose

“Vision without action is merely a dream. Action without vision just passes the time. Vision with action can change the world.” – Joel Barker

Last week, I was lost within my own blog. I decided to do free flow writing with a twist by commenting on 100 different blogs. I wanted to see where my subconscious would take me.

This was an experiment (originally done by Tristan) to get more traffic and comments to your blog.
-I did it to read more blogs and see how difficult it really is to comment on 100 blogs within 24 hours.
-I also didn’t want to just add crap to someone’s blog. I made sure to take the time to read their blog post and add more ideas to it.

I’m a firm believer in making the life you want to live. It’s important to have an ultimate purposeful vision, so that you have a meter that reads 100% passion. You can withstand all the highs and lows when your passion is that relentless, persistent, and powerful.

-If you want to conquer that bucket list, do it.
-If you want to make a difference in the world, do it.
-If you want to become financially independent, do it.

-Through my 100 comments, I learned more about what my blog is about because I let my subconscious relate to the posts, meaning whatever came up in my mind first is what I wrote.
-I added around 50 people’s blogs that I didn’t know existed.
-I learned more self-discipline. I was starting to get tired at around 90 or so but I went through it and made my goal of 100.
-I was able to take the best idea from a particular blog and make it resonate with the fear concept.
-An added bonus is that I networked with a few awesome people.

Writing on other people’s posts gave me inspiration on what my blog was going to be about in the long run and as you know the rest is history.

I noticed that 1/3 of my posts ended up talking about fear. I asked myself, “Why did I keep talking about fear?”

Then I brainstormed quite a bit as to what stopped all people from doing something they wanted to do.

It was simple. Fear stops people from doing whatever they want.

So it was my calling to take down an aspect of fear and attempt to knock it out.

If you don’t take that leap every once in a while, then you won’t let failure help you find your way.

If you can overcome fear, then you have the upper hand to create the vision in your mind and live with 100% passion.

Defeat fear and everything else can happen.
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