Seeing Someone for the First Time in Five Years

This is Day 10 of the Awkward Moments Experiment.


October 2006.

My old friend and I played Speed II (a card game variation of Speed) at a KFC near her hometown.

We met through a mutual friend and I took a risk by adding her on Myspace. (Can you believe that Myspace was still a primary leader in social networking back in 2006?)

I recall how witty I was when I messaged her. I remember saying that, “If you want to be sharp, you need to stop being so blunt at times.”

We decided to meet in person after many exchanges on Myspace.

Then it hit me. I was too nice and too needy in person. I asked way too many questions during that day. I went on a blushing mad streak. I ended up trying to touch her too soon. It got real awkward by the end of the hangout.

It killed all of her interest after that one meeting and we never hung out again.


Throughout the years I knew of her through my other friends in high school. They ended up going to the same university as her.

As she is a year older, she graduated this past summer. Then she ended up getting a job in Sacramento, right next to my university.


Fast forward to Thursday, October 6th, 2011. 5:30PM.

I took the bus to where we were going to meet. For added effect, the bus decided to hit every red light on the way there.

I wasn’t that nervous because I had no outcome on my mind.

I walked off the bus and saw the sunset. It calmed me.

I turned left and saw her waiting on the bench.

She looked the same which made me smile. We gave each other a friendly hug and walked into the Thai restaurant.

I ordered a Pad Thai and laughed in my head when I saw the $10 minimum purchase for using credit cards. I had no cash. I added a Thai iced coffee to reach the $10 plateau. My friend ordered Fried Calamari.

We sat at the bar counter (Thai restaurant + bar + cafe), and started chatting about the small stuff.

We talked about her work, my major, her school, our common friends, and what we do on the weekends.

It felt incredibly awkward to me because I didn’t transition into fun. I had let the conversation stay at a relatively stale point (too much chit-chat). I was afraid of pushing the conversation deeper. So I understood that and did it anyways.

My friend decided that she wanted frozen yogurt. It was a hot afternoon so I agreed to get some too. That’s where the fun started.

I let out a comment that opened the door to fun. “Hey, so I suppose if I need someone to finish some extra sweets, I’ll call you up and tell you to come over, get the sweets, and go away.”

We both smiled and laughed a bit.

*In my mind* Finally! The conversation got fun.

I made jokes about:
-how she used her student ID card to get a slight discount when her school was six hours away.
-how modest she was because she called herself modest. The red sweater was icing on the cake for that one.
-how ridiculous her toppings were for frozen yogurt. (I mean mochi as a topping for frozen yogurt is ridiculous.)

I could feel the conversation getting lighter and more fun. I made it fun.

She stated, “Yeah we’re too different.”

It made me laugh a bit.

It also helped me transition.


Discussion: Think back of an old friend. Would you want to catch up with them? If it’s possible, why not call them up? What would you tell them?