Awkward Moments Experiment

“Move out of your comfort zone. You can only grow if you are willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new.”
Brian Tracy

I’ve decided to create this to help me take more risks because my final year of college is looming.

I’ll create situations everyday for 30 days where two things happen:
1. I’m feeling extremely awkward.
2. It benefits the other person or group.

I’m tired of avoiding “perceived danger.” I have to let the training wheels go. I’m down to one year, so the pressure is on.

It’s a distant cousin of Rejection Therapy.
The major difference is that I don’t have to ask for anything.

Some examples:
1. Giving hi-fives to random people.
2. Going to a party, even if I don’t talk much. (I tend to avoid them, so that’s awkward.)
3. Wearing my shirt backwards the whole day.

The starting date is:
Sept 19.

Who’s with me?

In the comments below:
-Give me some ideas (reminder: It’s a University Campus)
-Tell me if you want to participate in this too or wish me luck.
-Anything else that’s in your awesome mind.

55 comments
Mr.Halen982
Mr.Halen982

Man you're great! Have you finished the experiment? Are the results anywhere available online?

Mario Vult
Mario Vult

Carry a notebook and pen. Write down something beautiful about people you meet and hand them the piece of paper. It could be "you're hot!" or "nice t-shirt". Then just walk away and leave them with a great souvenir. Maybe it isn't that awkward, but I trust you can spice up the idea.

Matt Ramos
Matt Ramos

Thanks Josh, I appreciate all those tips. I have a timer on my phone so that could work. I may approach study group tables or other things like that in the coming days. The challenges will get tougher and tougher, so all inspiration is welcome.

Josh
Josh

Great project. I did something similar last new years. I was doing One of the challenges in Neil Strauss's rules of the game. I walked though London with my underpants over my trousers and a dildo strapped to my head. The polices made me take the dildo off, but the under wear were fine. The idea was to become comfortable with the uncomfortable. It certainly worked. I'd recommend coming up with some way of measuring your efforts though. That way you can appreciate all the glorious Progress you make. Suggestions anyone?

Amanda Stein
Amanda Stein

Love the idea! Imagine all the people you are going to inspire...and already have!

Jennie
Jennie

I may participate. Good idea!

Kidculebra
Kidculebra

Sing don't worry be happy to random people and give them a hug or a flower or a cookie =)

Purple Panda
Purple Panda

hand out condoms :) lol i still want to do this for World Domination Summit if I ever get a chance to make it. No one steal my idea!! ;P

Chris Barba
Chris Barba

Got it! And I give you mad props if you do this! As you are walking in a crowd of people just stop frozen in time for 60 seconds and then continue walking like nothing happened.

NomadicNeill
NomadicNeill

Ok, just offering a contrarian opinion. There's a fine line between risking awkwardness in order to reach your goals... and deliberately acting strange for kicks. How big is your campus?

jo
jo

Hey Matt, how about walking around with only socks on? People tend to question you if your not wearing shoes but are still wearing socks for whatever reason. Just don't use a pair you really like or you might end up ruining them. Good luck with the experiment!

Josh Lipovetsky
Josh Lipovetsky

Matt, this is awesome. One more suggestion for you: Find a place with a decent/high amount of people, and a place where there's enough space to dance. Bring a boombox, and dance like no one's watching for one song :). I just started college, and that is what I'm gonna be doing. Kind of like Niall's Acts of Courage! Or you could sing, haha. Whatever makes you feel more awkward. Best of luck, Josh Lipovestky

Jordi NL
Jordi NL

I like "3. Wearing my shirt backwards the whole day", it would be even funnier if it was a shirt and you asked people to help you button it up

Kai
Kai

What a great experiment. Can't wait to read how it goes. I want to try rejection therapy first...I think it will benefit me immensely. I like the idea of jumping on your get rejected by 100 girls and try that with 100 guys. But they must be guys I find attractive...I can never talk to them. ha ha.

Caroline Leon
Caroline Leon

Matt you are an inspiration - I am so impressed by this and can't wait to hear more about it. Good luck!

Harley Roxanne
Harley Roxanne

Looking forward to hearing how this goes! My hat off to you for taking such a bold step. :-)

Chase Night
Chase Night

You could stand around in funny poses like a model to protest the ridiculous world of fashion photography. Saw a hilarious video of this today. Might work better for women though.

Mark David Robertson
Mark David Robertson

I think colleges are good places for passing out tracks for something you don't fully believe in. Or, you could pass out tracks saying "Matt Ramos at 30vanquish.com is making me do this"

Meeshell Heffner
Meeshell Heffner

I love it! I remember seeing an article years ago in which a magazine had their staff members commit to a new "habit" for 30 days and report on the results. Some of them were striking up a conversation with a stranger every single day, and wearing bright red lipstick every single day.

alonnir
alonnir

There is one thing I always thought might be an interesting experiment: Tip people when it's not a tipping situation. After visiting Manhattan for the first time and learning that in Manhattan you must tip in so many situations, I thought to myself - what would happen if I tip when it's obvious no tipping is expected. How would the other person react? E.g.: Ask someone if he has the time. Tip him a buck when he gives you the time. Ask a stranger for directions, to take a picture, ask a stupid trivia question.

Bridget
Bridget

YES. LOVE THIS IDEA! What about hanging out at an off-ramp with a cardboard sign that just says Have a nice day?

Bryce Christiansen
Bryce Christiansen

Wow this is a cool experiment. I researched some pick up videos for a blog idea I had and man were some of those awkward. However, it really was a great learning experience for everyone involved and more often then not, the guy ended up benefiting from his awkward situations.

Benny Hsu
Benny Hsu

Could you stand on campus with a sign that says free hugs? That would be awkward but benefit others possibly.

Charlie Pabst
Charlie Pabst

Dude, this is brilliant. I feel awkward just reading it. Count me in, man! Would love to hear some other ideas from readers as well!

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