“The thing with pretending you’re in a good mood is that sometimes you can” – Charles de Lint
Do you have days where you wake up feeling absolutely terrible?
That is how I felt today. I had to write an essay so I had three hours of sleep.
So what can someone do to raise their mood during the day?
1. Take a risk and possibly get rejected. It makes you feel proud that you did something you would not normally do. No matter how much of a thrill seeker you are, you can always create a situation where you feel the adrenaline rise. The stimulating feeling should at the very least wake you up as long as you do not take rejection personally.
2. Be altruistic. Take negative energy and put it back into the world as positive energy. I remember getting rejected when I offered some fellow students fruit gushers back on Day 36. Right after someone made an offending rejection, I quickly complimented someone on their shoes to take that energy out.
3. Think about or do something that makes you smile. I smiled thinking about how I am trying to improve myself. I also got my ipod out and started listening to music. Do something that makes you feel better about yourself immediately. It could be thinking about your lover, the activity you get to do later on, or having an awesome chocolate bar.
4. Have some sort of physical activity.. Take 20-30 minutes of your day to walk or run. It increases your mood because physical activity releases endorphins that make you feel better.
5. Make a mental list of all the things that you are grateful for. When all else fails, I tend to think about all the things that make me happy and satisfied with life. I am happy for my family, friends, simply being in the present, having food to eat, having an opportunity to be successful, writing this blog, etc.
Find something that works for you when all other forms of positivity have evaded you during the day. It could be making a list of things you are grateful for, destroying negativity with mental imagery, taking a power nap, reading a book, etc.
Now what happened today:
I went into the library today to print out my essay. I went on my e-mail and realized the professor from Day 35 replied. He said that he gave bonus points to people on that question only because he stated that he does not curve in his class. Also, he explained that raising their grade did not affect my grade in any negative way. It was worth a try but that was a rejection!
I turned in my essay and sat through lecture. After lecture I was walking and saw someone who was in my class. I said, “Hello. That was a boring lecture wasn’t it? (In the most positive tone I could muster). Her reply was a quick, muttered, “Yeah.” Then she quickly walked the other way. That was another solid rejection.
Usually, when I try to ask someone for a request online it is no big deal, so I would not count it. However, it felt odd having to ask someone new if they wanted to study. The person said no and that studying for another exam was another priority. My brain reacted in a vulnerable way for a few seconds, so it was another solid rejection.
It is always better to miss on the side of taking action. I would rather feel or act awkwardly than not act at all.