About

Why write this blog? Fear robbed me of being able to express myself during one of the most defining moments in my life. That’s the moment I realized that the permanent pain of regret hurts way more than the temporary pain of rejection.

How do I approach the edge of the social comfort zone? To overcome social fear, I partake in social experiments like Rejection Therapy and Social Skydiving. I also talk to random strangers and participate in other social activities that help both myself and others.

As of 6/3/13, I decided to make it a project about meeting 1000 people.

What would you get out of it? Helping you step outside of your own social comfort zone by being more direct and honest with the world around you.

About Matt Ramos:

I used to be shy. Once that event woke me up, I decided that I had to regain my stride by learning how to optimize my communication with the world. I’m 23, Psychology major, INFP. I live in the SF bay area. Recommend me awesome music and I’ll do the same.

You should contact me at my twitter here @approachmachine

or theapproachmachine [at] gmail [.] com

12 comments
Karen
Karen

Hey Matt (notice the friendly tone)... Great writing and I look forward to more of your postings! I'm easily 2.5 times older than you and wish I had your blog to guide me thru my anxious 20's. Even in my 50's I know I'm going to gain some great insight from your blog. Keep up the momentum and you'll shine well before hitting 3-0!

Financial Samurai
Financial Samurai

Good thing the USA life expectancy is 79!

Matt Ramos
Matt Ramos

Haha yeah! But even in first world countries, it's just an average. You don't want to be on the wrong side of that average before you've done most (if not, everything) you set out to do.

Mark
Mark

Hey Matt. I clicked over from your guest post on Jason Shen's blog. I think you've got an awesome blog, and I'm looking forward to pouring over the archives!

Matt Ramos
Matt Ramos

Hey Mark, Glad you saw that guest post! Many thanks for the compliment. Hope you enjoy the archives.

Mony
Mony

Hi, I got to your blog through your guest post at sebastianmarshall.com I love what you are doing, man. You've got serious balls. Your stories got me inspired and I'll try it myself! Cheers! mony

Matt
Matt

Thanks. Yeah, it's better to try than to not try. I'll glad I motivated you, enjoy your own rejections! Cheers!

null
null

full of insights, indeed:) great job!

Kathy Lori
Kathy Lori

I love reading your blog ( found it thru TinyBuddha.com ). I'm a software developer, working out of my house. I've had problems with anxiety for years, but, with time, it has lessened. Most people you meet want to like you and want to be friendly. You will meet jerks along the way but thankfully they are few and far between. I try to treat everyone like I would like to be treated, realizing that some folks will never like me, but a lot of people do.

Jenna
Jenna

I found our blog via your TinyBuddha.com article. I have had social anxiety for a long time (at one point to the extreme of being housebound). I've learned to deal with it mostly, but I still avoid certain situations due to fear of rejection. You have inspired me to step outside of myself and try some of my own rejection therapy. I look forward to reading more of your posts. Thank you Matt.

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