I’m Matt.

This is for you if you believe in passing it forward.

Imagine if aliens come to our planet and are wondering what we’re about. I’m cataloging my personal experiences with people to share a nice storybook about humanity.

I’ll attempt to write about 1000 awesome people. Wish me luck.

Check out my Past Approaches tab to see my progress.


In 2011, I wrote about my personal journey through 70 days of Rejection Therapy [ref]For more info about what Rejection Therapy, visit the website, http://rejectiontherapy.com/[/ref].

This gave me the courage to meet people in real life, whether that is initiating the conversation in real life or online.

What made me write this blog? Fear robbed me of being able to express myself during one of the most defining moments in my life. That’s the moment I realized that being courageous, even awkwardly, is infinitely better than regret.

About Matt Ramos:

Trance music, especially Armin van Buuren.
Sports, especially the San Francisco Giants.
Traveling, especially to the Nordic countries.

You can contact me at my twitter here @approachmachine

or theapproachmachine [at] gmail [.] com

[Disclaimer: This website does not represent the thoughts, intentions, plans or strategies of my employer. It is solely my opinion. I didn’t receive any compensation for this post.]

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  1. I found our blog via your TinyBuddha.com article. I have had social anxiety for a long time (at one point to the extreme of being housebound). I’ve learned to deal with it mostly, but I still avoid certain situations due to fear of rejection. You have inspired me to step outside of myself and try some of my own rejection therapy.

    I look forward to reading more of your posts. Thank you Matt.

  2. I love reading your blog ( found it thru TinyBuddha.com ). I’m a software developer, working out of my house. I’ve had problems with anxiety for years, but, with time, it has lessened. Most people you meet want to like you and want to be friendly. You will meet jerks along the way but thankfully they are few and far between. I try to treat everyone like I would like to be treated, realizing that some folks will never like me, but a lot of people do.

  3. Hi, I got to your blog through your guest post at sebastianmarshall.com

    I love what you are doing, man. You’ve got serious balls. Your stories got me inspired and I’ll try it myself!


    • Thanks.
      Yeah, it’s better to try than to not try.
      I’ll glad I motivated you, enjoy your own rejections!


  4. Hey Matt. I clicked over from your guest post on Jason Shen’s blog. I think you’ve got an awesome blog, and I’m looking forward to pouring over the archives!

    • Haha yeah! But even in first world countries, it’s just an average. You don’t want to be on the wrong side of that average before you’ve done most (if not, everything) you set out to do.

  5. Hey Matt (notice the friendly tone)… Great writing and I look forward to more of your postings!

    I’m easily 2.5 times older than you and wish I had your blog to guide me thru my anxious 20’s. Even in my 50’s I know I’m going to gain some great insight from your blog. Keep up the momentum and you’ll shine well before hitting 3-0!

  6. Hello Matt, stopping by before the 2012 ends 🙂 Thanks for connecting with me on Twitter and I’m a fan of the Rejection Therapy, great to e-meet you! – @jonharules

  7. Hello Matt.  I came across your articles.  It’s not only the topics that caught my attention ,but the smooth flow of your words – you effectively carry your messages to us, readers.  Way to go!  I am new in building up my business, and I was looking for articles on how to overcome fear when talking people.  My style is not the sales approach, I like your blog – 11 Ways to Turn Strangers into Friends.. it helps me to have the human-touch approach.Thanks


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